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Being in Love with Your Best Friend - Should You Tell Her or Keep It to Yourself?

 


Let’s be real, bro. I bet at least once in your life, you’ve been in this sh*tty situation: you’re in love with your female best friend.

You two text every day, hang out, grab food, talk about life, exes, family drama... She tells you everything. And deep down, you're hoping that maybe one day she’ll wake up and realize, “Damn, he's the one.”

But here’s the messed-up part - she only sees you as a friend. Meanwhile, you’re over here catching feelings you can’t shake.

So what now? Should you tell her? Or just keep playing it cool and suffer in silence?

Let me ask you something: how long do you really think you can keep this up?

Every time she talks about some guy she likes, every time she gets into a fight with her boyfriend, every time she asks you for advice about another dude... doesn’t it kill you just a little bit inside?

I know guys who’ve played the “nice guy bestie” role so well they became the emotional support system for the girl they were secretly in love with. Giving her dating advice, hyping her up to chase some other dude - all while dying inside.

And when she finally finds someone and says, “You’re the best friend I’ve ever had. I don’t know what I’d do without you.” That’s when it hits. You’re not the one. You’re the safety net.

Here’s the truth no one wants to say out loud: keeping your feelings hidden doesn’t make you noble. It just makes you miserable.

You think you’re being respectful. But what you’re really doing is lying to yourself every single day.

You’re hoping she’ll magically “realize” you’re the right one? News flash: she won’t. Unless you do something, she’ll keep seeing you as just “her buddy.”

“But if I tell her, I might lose her.”

Yeah. Maybe. But if you don’t say a damn thing, you’re losing yourself.

Real talk: you’re either gonna have to man up and be honest, or keep drowning in silence while she dates other guys.

And for what? To protect a “friendship” that’s already lopsided as hell?

I’m not saying go confess your love like some rom-com character. But you need to ask yourself: are you waiting for something that’s never going to happen? Are you sacrificing your happiness to stay close to someone who doesn’t feel the same?

Be honest: are you pretending to be okay with being just friends, when all you want is more?

If the answer is yes, then it’s time to make a choice.

Either: step up, be real with her, and accept whatever comes - because at least you’re not hiding anymore.

Or: step back, create distance, focus on yourself, and stop bleeding energy into a dead-end.

If she’s a real friend, she’ll respect your honesty - even if she doesn’t feel the same.

If she walks away after you open up? Then maybe it wasn’t a real friendship after all. Maybe it was just you lying to her and to yourself, hoping for something more.

So… should you tell your best friend you’re in love with her? That’s up to you. But don’t keep it inside if it’s killing you a little more every day.

And listen - if you’ve been around here for a while, you already know I’ve told you this before - go read The Tao of Badass.

I’m not saying it for fun. I keep bringing it up because it freakin’ works, especially if you’re tired of being the “nice guy” who never gets the girl.

👉 Here’s the breakdown I wrote on it - go read it already: [The Tao of Badass]

Stop scrolling past it. Stop overthinking. Just read it - then come back and thank me later.

Let me leave you with this:

Have you ever truly loved someone - or were you just scared to be alone, so you held on to a friendship that looked like love?

If this hit a nerve, send it to a bro who needs it. We’ve all been there. What matters is what you do next.









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